Two cupped hands in front of a person wearing a green top, holding two palm fulls of crystals of various colors from light blue to dark green, yellow, pink and black.

Thoughts on healing – I’m not here to heal you.

Do you believe you’re a broken machine who needs fixing?

I’m here to tell you that you are not broken, dear one.

You don’t need to be fixed.  Even if you literally have a broken bone in your body, you, a human being, are not broken.  Most of us are so stuck in our heads, as a result of the consistent demands in life, that we often forget the fact that we’re not robotic machines.

Instead we are magnificent beings who are capable of feeling and who also have the innate capacity, within each one of us, to heal.

So when people come to me and say “fix me” or “heal me”  My response to them is, “no”.  I am not here to “fix” you, nor do I have the ability to “heal” you!

I’m not healing you… it’s a facilitation.  What I am here to do is help you tap into that healing place that’s already within you. 

For example, many clients apologize to me during a session when their stomach growls.  My response to them is, please don’t apologize, “the louder the better!”


When you receive a session and your stomach growls, that’s a signal to us that your body is out of the fight and flight response and has entered into the rest and digest phase.  When you and your body feel safe and in a space to let your guard down, that’s when the sympathetic nervous system (fight and flight) takes a back seat and the parasympathetic nervous system (rest and digest) kicks in.  When the parasympathetic nervous system is in charge; nerve function becomes regulated and this contributes to proper absorption of nutrients, efficient digestive activity, calmed nerves and normalized heart rate.

When our body’s physiological responses start to slow down, we can then enter a state of feeling; and as one of my mentors, John F. Barnes, states, “we have to feel it to heal it” or “the key to healing is feeling.”

Yet so many people are afraid to feel.  Yes, it can be scary or uncomfortable at first to feel sensations in your body, in your mind and in your being that you haven’t felt before; yet when we give into the fear we end up running away from the feeling or brace ourselves against the sensation.  This bracing or disassociation only creates more pain.  Pain is a signal from our bodies to stop and listen and course correct.

When we actually stop, listen to the pain or sensations that arise, we can then begin to dance with what’s coming up and go into it.

Going into the feeling is what transforms it.

Running from it or fighting it only strengthens it.

So instead of coming in for a session expecting me to heal you or fix you; I request that you to come in with the intention to reconnect with the human in you. The human that is not perfect.  The human that has feels, the human that breathes through life, wants to live life and not just be a taskmaster checking their to do list off.  The human that can switch gears into the parasympathetic nervous system.  The human that can “feel it in order to heal it (John F Barnes)”.  That’s when you can authentically heal.

Let my work be a guide for you on this healing journey and if you need further assistance through what is coming up, I’m well connected with other healing and healthcare professionals to refer you to.  You’re not alone in this.

Another way to look at it is, the body is a barometer of how we feel in our lives.

This is not a new idea, metaphysics talks about it all the time, but I want people to recognize that when we work together, we’re fine tuning your barometer. When you’re stuck in your head all day long, it’s challenging to make anything better because you’re so disconnected from the vessel you’re in.  How in the world can you make changes in your life if you’re not connected?  

You can only think your way through life so much.  

Now is the time to feel your way through life.  

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